PREMARITAL COUNSELING
More than a wedding.
Lay your foundation.
For engaged couples or couples exploring if marriage is the next right step.
A space to discover what commitment means to you, deepen your understanding of one another, and build a foundation rooted in your own values, rather than inherited expectations.
IN SEBASTOPOL, CA AND ONLINE
Finding your own North Star: meaning without a predefinined script
You don't have to be religious to want a marriage that feels meaningful. Many of the couples I work with are creating their own path, drawing on diverse backgrounds, values, and cultural or spiritual traditions, or no tradition at all.
Premarital counseling can be a space to slow down, ask the deeper questions, and build a shared vision for your life together, in a way that feels authentic to you both.
Honoring the threshold
A wedding is a celebration of your love. Premarital counseling is an opportunity to give as much attention to your marriage as you do to your wedding.
Together, we can explore what commitment means to you, what kind of partnership you want to build, and how to navigate the challenges and changes that are part of any long-term relationship.
What we might explore together
THE MEANING OF YOUR COMMITMENT
What does marriage mean to each of you? What have you inherited, and what do you want to create?
YOUR SHARED NORTH STAR
What values and intentions will guide your relationship? What kind of life do you want to be in service of?
CONFLICT, INTIMACY, REPAIR, AND DIFFERENCE
How do you find your way back to each other after a difficult moment? How can you make room for both of your longings?
THE LIFE YOU'RE BUILDING
How do you want to approach family, work, money, home, community, children, and the inevitable changes ahead?
Build the foundation before you need to repair it.
COUPLES THERAPY
So often, couples seek therapy years or even decades into a relationship, when patterns of disconnection, resentment, and misunderstanding have become deeply familiar.
But what if you didn't have to wait until things felt difficult to give your relationship this kind of attention?
Premarital counseling is an opportunity to be proactive—to understand the patterns you each bring into your relationship, learn how to navigate differences, and develop ways of finding your way back to one another when life inevitably gets complicated.
It's not about preventing every conflict or preparing for a perfect marriage. It's about tending to your relationship from the beginning, so that when challenges arise, you have a stronger foundation to return to.